Tuesday, April 12, 2011

Leaving a Legacy

Big thought: imagine when your kids are 30 and they come home for thanksgiving with their own kids, what will be their pursuit in life?
Question to ask yourself: what do you want your child to be like at age 30

*Notes taken from Metro Youth Pastor Session with Richard Ross

- youth pastors who are tremendously successful with other people's kids can lose their own heart connection with their own kids.
- the vast majority of people who have a vibrant faith are people who maintained a consistent heart connection as a son or daughter.

DISCIPLINE
- there is not one positive piece of research that says hollering at kids produces lasting positive effects.
- are you certain that yelling is a good strategy?
- to keep from yelling at kids, you use consequences. Consequences illustrate justice and fairness
- Tug of War strategy - when a teenager pulls and tests the limits it's totally normal. When you give and take and reward positively based on faithfulness and responsibility it helps them process good or bad behavior.

ENCOURAGING WORDS
- The absence of words that can bless and encourage can pull pipes from people's hearts.
- your words matter so much that you can maximize your potential to fill a hearts tank to the full
- are you saying those sentences that mean everything to kids?
- a growing absence of encouraging words can weaken a heart connection

TIME
- a balance of extracurricular activities must be maintained to create a better child, which was the purpose of extracurricular activities were created
- is all of this activity building better kids in our house?

HEART CONNECTIONS
Things You Can Do Daily, Weekly, Monthly to Lead Your Home
>>> DAILY
1. DAILY - pray with your kids everyday
before everyone leaves, at night before bed, all together in the morning...work what's best
2. DAILY - pray for your children
- the enemy is roaring looking to devour your kids. Make the decision to wake every morning to do battle for your kids...on your knees.
- do your kids ever see you praying for them?
3. DAILY - live His life in front of your kids
- what is to be my attitude, response, reaction to this moment?
4. DAILY - teach as you walk in the way
- in the course of the day, look for the opportunity to inject truth in your kids life
>>> WEEKLY
1. WEEKLY - creative worship together
- your best should be given to your family
>>> MONTHLY
2. MONTHLY - Serve others in Christ name together
- if you wish this for your youth ministry why not make this a priority for your own family.
>>> YEARLY
3. YEARLY - serve others in Christ name as a family away
- family mission trip
- or, spend one day on vacation serving others
- when it is logistically possible, take your kids with you on church trips

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