Wednesday, September 18, 2013

Considering Suicide? Here are 5 Reasons to Stay Alive

Every 13 minutes in America, someone takes their own life...

We live in a day where people are hurting and as a result of their pain, they're left making a choice between living or dying. For many people, suicide plagues their thinking day in and day out, and as a result of these thoughts, the reality of ending their life has become a real option that they are considering.  

If that's you and you're reading this, I want to challenge you to stop.  Take a breath.  Chill out for a few minutes and give yourself a chance to re-think a few things.

In this article, I want to give you 5 things to think about.  Then I want to give you 5 reasons why you should stay alive:


1.  People Have Survived Your Circumstances--whatever you're currently going through, you've got to know that it is survivable.  No matter how bad it seems in the moment, please know that it's not going to be impossible to move forward.

2.  Give it some time.  My Mom always said, "Don't speak when you're angry.  Cool off first, then come back and we can talk."  Time is the cure for a lot of things.  Give it 24 hours.  Have enough time to process your decisions in their entirety before making them.

3.  Don't think making this decision will eliminate pain.  It will only cause pain.  Someone once said that "Suicide isn't chosen; it's what happens when pain exceeds resources for coping with pain."  That tells me that if I'm in pain, I need to do 2 things.  First of all, I need to find a way to reduce my pain.  Secondly, I need to increase my coping resources.

4.  Your decisions will always affect other people.  If you're thinking that suicide is an easy way to escape your reality without any real side effects, you're wrong.  This decision will affect families, friends, communities, children, etc.

5.  Suicidal feelings in and of themselves are a traumatic thing.  After these thoughts have subdued, you've got to reach out for help and take care of yourself.  Call a Pastor or Christian Counselor and talk through these things with them, but whatever you do, don't fight this battle all by yourself.


1.  God's not through with you yet.

If God was through with you, you'd already be dead.  You woke up this morning for a reason.  Your heart continues to beat and your lungs continue to fill up with air because the God of the Universe is directing them to.  God hasn't given up on you, so why would you?  Trust me, He's big enough to get you through the current circumstances and He promises that in Him, your future is bright.  That's why Jesus came in the first place.

In John 10:10, Jesus said, "I came so that you may have life and have it abundantly."  This is an incredible promise that says, Jesus wants you to be satisfied in Him and that abundant life is possible through Him.

2.  You are loved & Your life is valuable.

Believe it or not, you are greatly loved.  There are people in your life that love you.  Maybe they don't tell you or express it verbally, but when you get to the core of who they are, they love you.  Not only are you loved by people, but you're loved by God.  Romans 5:8 says that "God demonstrated his love to us in this, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us."  That says, even though we are flawed... even though we are imperfect people, God loved us.  And He loved us so much that He gave his life for us.  He took our place.  He died so that we didn't have to.  He suffered so that we didn't have to.  When you accept Jesus, you accept the antidote for pain & suffering!  He gives us peace we can't explain and a hope that is supernatural.  He loved us that much!

3.  Your life blesses people.  Your death would hurt people.

Your life is a blessing to others, and if it's not currently, it could be.  Just imagine if you lived everyday looking for opportunities to be a blessing.  Encouraging people.  Lifting up the hurting.  Ministering to the needy.  Speaking truth in places desperate for it.  Your life could make a tremendous difference in the lives of many!  On the other hand, your death would only hurt people.  Nobody goes to a funeral and leaves encouraged and motivated.  Nobody hears a suicide story on the news and decides to become a better husband or wife... Father or Mother... son or daughter.  Death leads to destruction, whereas life leads to an endless realm of opportunities.

4.  You haven't fulfilled God's entire purpose for your life yet.

What is the purpose of your life?  Do you know it?  Many people will answer that by saying, "Well... to be a good friend... or to have a good time... or to be a good dad/mom... etc." It really doesn't matter how you answer that question, whatever the answer is, it's probably wrong.  Here's the thing; you don't know the entire purpose for your life.  If you're a Christian, that purpose is to bring glory to God and share Him with others and to live a Godly life.  Yes, but at the same time, you don't know the specifics to what God has in store for you.  He may be getting you ready for a divine appointment when you're 90 years old for all you know.  Here's what I do know.  When your purpose is fulfilled... you're outta here!  Until then, be patient and wait on God.  Trust Him with your circumstance and He will get you through.  I love this verse in Proverbs 3:5-6:

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.  In all your ways, submit to Him and He will make your path straight.

5.  Better days are yet to come.

God always saves the best for last.  Satan likes to lead off with his best first.  He will give you a taste of something sinful that tastes sweet, but in due time, you'll discover how nasty it really is.  Proverbs 20:17 says, "Food gained by fraud tastes sweet, but one ends up with a mouth full of gravel."  That's the way the Devil works.  But with God, every day is sweeter than the day before.  And it's encouraging to know that God has a plan for our lives.  It says in Jeremiah 29:11, "I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans not to harm you, but to give you a hope and a future."  God is a good God that loves His children and wants the best for them.  Does that mean He answers every prayer with "yes"?  No.  Does it mean that all our problems on this earth will go away?  No.  What it means is this... God is big enough to get us through the things we are incapable of getting through ourselves.  He loves us and stands beside us.  Don't give up on God.  He hasn't given up on you!


  1. Jordan. These are some great insights. I have read a lot about reasons to stay around and this is excellent as it relates to gods will. Thank you.

  2. By your logic, we also shouldn't save people from deadly situations (cancer, drowning, etc.) because God wants them dead.